Christian marriage is meant to be solemnized by the church and not just by the tradition or the court. That means believers are not supposed to be living as husband and wife until the church says they can. We are not traditionalists or secularists. The culture may be the authority for the former while the court could be it for the later. We belong to the body of Christ and until that body confirms us married, we are not. Of course, we should satisfy both the cultural and legal expectations of society on our relationship but God and the church must have the final say in our lives.